Tip 3: Keep your Light bright this Christmas

As we embrace this holiday season and the tradition of sharing Christmas with our loved ones, it is an opportunity to prepare our mind to go forward into these gatherings with an intention of unconditional, positive regard. The less we expect or demand from one-another, the less our buttons will be pushed. As we observe the behaviours in those we are close to, which may be less than ideal, look lovingly at the wound that creates these reactions and projections, without judgement or the desire that the person be different. I’ve found that this is a fail-safe way to remain buoyant in my heart, and genuine with my affections towards anything that may otherwise become vexatious.

My grandmother, and then my mother in turn, used to say “Peter Rabbit’s mother told him: ‘If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all’”. And so, I’ve learned to hold my tongue. Not in suppression, but to observe where the need in me to be “right” and “heard” is coming from. Arguments stem from having to be righteous. There are, of course, times to mindfully comment and set boundaries when behaviour is doing harm to others, but if it’s just a little bluster of ego and projection, I just send it love, and it sets me free of my own reactions.

Hugging someone who is venting is extremely healing for them. It will usually totally surprise them, take the wind out of their sails, and de-escalate things immediately – if the hug is validating and heart-felt. Yes, it takes discipline and practice, but it is highly worthwhile and liberating within you.

I’m also mindful that this time coincides with our Summer and Winter solstices. In the Southern Hemisphere, it is the longest day of the year, which was Friday the 22nd this year. And in the North, it is the shortest day, which was Thursday the 21st. In both instances, we’re acknowledging the constant influence that the coming and going of light has on our lives. Whether it be from the excess heat or cold, we are dependent on light, around us and within us, for inner health and global stabilisation.

It is from these understandings that Masters have harnessed the life force within light, to breathe in strength with intention, and build it within their meridians (energy channels). We live in a constant state of osmosis, automatically assimilating the life force around us as we breathe. This brings into sharper focus the need to be protective of the environments we inhabit and the company we keep. A lot of energies are being exchanged between us all the time, and we deserve to be protective of the spaces we choose to spend the most time in. We benefit from keeping clear boundaries both emotionally and physically, so we are more able to thrive and embrace life from a positive place.

The more you’re able to ensure that you live in a clear and supportive space, the more positive life force you accumulate and store within you. And the more you have to lovingly share with others. So while you’re being generous this Christmas, cherish and protect your most precious gift – yourself. Protect and value you, so that you may keep on shining your love on others.

May the Light shine bright in your life and in your heart this Christmas. ♥

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Diversity

I’ve been busy writing up useful information to soon share, but in the face of so much division lately, I wanted to pause and share with you a poem I wrote fifteen years ago. It seems more poignantly appropriate now than ever.

When we speak judgmentally of people with choices different to our own, we overlook the opportunity to cultivate empathy for one-another. Before reacting, we owe it to ourselves, and the peace of our communities, to take the time to learn where the other’s beliefs came from – in a non-critical way. To pause and discern; recognising the faith, and the fear in the other, dearly in need of a sense of safety: Whether that is safety from persecution here on earth, or fear of hell in the here-after. We all have our own fears.

All of our righteousness inevitably leads to conflict, and defensive polarising away from each other. We have to make our conversations more personal and educated, rather than political and divisive. Then we stand a chance of understanding, reaching out respectfully, and reassuring those who dance to a different drum.

To quote Albert Einstein “Peace cannot be kept by force; it can only be achieved by understanding.”

I guess the sticking point is when the behaviours of others generate harm and prejudice.  It can be very difficult to stay calm in the face of the violation of human rights, and with assault on any level. And legal pathways exist to deal with this. We need to recognise the time to be a voice for the voiceless, to support the brave with their disclosures, and to embrace some of the wonderful movements that we are witnessing today as a result, as they become “viral” tools for education and liberation.  There is a time to heal from pain, a time to learn from it, and a time to let it go. And understanding paves the way to forgiveness.

But on-going conversations in these areas are not necessarily going to be easy. We have to mediate diplomatically, speaking to the fears that the prejudice comes from. Xenophobia is still alive and well: the fear of things and people different to ourselves. We cringe with terror when being stretched outside our comfort zones. But not to try sentences us all to suffer.

There is a time to speak out protectively against abusive prejudice, and a time to teach, to learn and to build bridges. It’s a lot more work to keep rebuilding the bridges that we’ve burnt – before we’ve had a chance to cross them. ♥

 

DIVERSITY

Brother dear, this life is short,
This busy road is wide,
So you can sing a different tune,
And still dance at my side.

Diversity in not a threat
And sharing makes us wise,
When we both will sing of Peace,
We will harmonise.

Open up your heart to me,
Look at who I AM,
Walking in each other’s shoes
Is what our God has planned.

So let me live in my own way,
If I do you no harm,
It answers yearnings in my heart
So I am strong and calm.

The Eight Fold Path of Buddha,
Beatitudes of Christ,
Krishna taught Arjuna well,
Mohammed, true and wise.

The Mystical Qabaala,
Koran rich and deep.
Shakti, Shiva, Babaji,
Sharman, Jain and Sikh.

Baha’i, Jewish, Christian,
Spiritualist too,
You all love the same God,
And He loves all of you.

Different by Religion,
Creed, Philosophy,
All that stands between us…

Was designed to set us free.

©Deborah Morgan, 16th December, 2002

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Tip 2: Are you a Secret?

A gifted friend shared with me last week that she had been asked a critical question about herself that evoked a powerful response from her. She had been asked “Are you a secret?”
She was able to respond with a clear, resounding “No, I am not a secret”. This amazing woman stands in her power as a passionate and successful Medium.
I realised straight away I was applying it to myself: “Am I a secret?”

My first response was to not compute it – I couldn’t even process the question. My second response was to be defensive: I thought to myself “What kind of a question is that?!” I had no frame of reference to even consider it was wrong to keep what I was under wraps. And then I knew I was on to something huge, and hidden within me! Justified and suppressed… of course I am.

After life-long ridicule for being psychic, and well-meaning advice to protect my conventional and professional reputation, of course I’d become extremely discerning as to where I’d admitted my true level of psychic access to the world. It became natural to keep my insights, visions and messages to myself. I edited beautifully, and had a very fluid and engaging contemporary facade. How well-adapted am I?! How normal! How lonely, isolated and in denial am I?!

“Am I a secret?” “Oh my god, yes, always”. Even amongst spiritual friends and associates, I was so cautious and reluctant to confidently share the full range of input Spirit had to my daily perceptions of life. Part of my psyche had just accepted it had to protect me from appearing “crazy”. Some of my insights were such a quantum leap from even contemporary Spiritual thinking that I just processed it all alone, because I thought I “knew” I’d be seen as implausible. And being  painfully shy made the confrontation of it unbearable.

And so I had a day to day life performance of being only half of who I was. “Am I a secret?” The answer was so confronting that it hit me like an earth shattering epiphany. Would I have reacted this way if I’d been asked earlier – years ago? Probably not. I don’t think we have these shifts until we’re truly ready on several levels – I would’ve justified, dismissed and moved on. But this day, it hit me like a truck!

My friend saw the wave of emotional processing broiling within me, and took me through a very simple EFT tapping session that left my heart burning with excitement and liberation of the likes I hadn’t felt in years. “No, not any more!” Not angry, or baffled. Just excited! On fire with the celebration I was receiving from my Team in Spirit. And ready.

Over the years I had challenged myself on so many levels to release my worries over what others thought; “to detach personally, professionally, and socially; to create healthy boundaries and internal validation!” That had all served me well, but this one – this huge, hidden, unconventional and often misunderstood part of me – has simply not been challenged until now. Why would I choose social suicide?! I’d only admitted a part of what I was to selected audiences, where I felt a degree of security and acceptance, for being “psychic”.

And now it feels akin to “stepping out”. I’ve lived my life in a (very warm and friendly, professional and highly functional) … closet. I should have a “coming out” party!

Most likely, no one who mattered would really hold “my secret” against me, but I certainly had, and it was smothering. I’d clipped my own wings and hidden the stumps. If I now consider how I feel about others reactions, judgements, or concerns for my revelation, it doesn’t even rank as having any significance, compared to the importance of living my truth, fully in the light.

The ramifications are so hugely liberating that they’re still unfolding. I wake up excited each morning to create, write, share, just be, on a whole new inspired and engaging level. I can only highly recommend the experience to everyone: “Am I a secret?” You might like to ask yourself when you feel safe to be totally open and honest, and see where you feel any denial within you – are you resisting in setting yourself free on any level? Then embrace the liberating, and challenging, roller coaster that just might follow! ♥

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Tip 1: Easy breathing to reduce anxiety

I felt to start with something useful. ♥
One very effective way I’ve found to reduce adrenalin, and calm your nervous system when it’s over-reacting, is to simply breathe into your belly. If you practice when you’re calm it will be more instantly effective when you most need it:

This means that when you breathe in, you imagine the breath travelling down through your diaphragm, which is just under your ribs, down into your abdomen. To help this process, gently allow your belly to push out as you inhale, imagining you’re filling it with air. On the out breath, you simply relax your abdomen and allow it to go back to normal. Your intention is to pull your breath deep down below your ribs, at a rate that is slower than usual, and comfortable for you. As you practice, this will gradually become slower, calmer and deeper.

Now, the reason this works so well, is that you are taking the emphasis off breathing up high in your chest, where the body goes into an automatic fight-or-flight reaction, to produce more adrenalin and cortisol. This breathing becomes more rapid as our stress reaction increases, and can lead to hyperventilation and panic attacks. It’s the way our lower brain takes us to the point of reacting faster to a perceived danger. This is great if you have to run for your life, or physically fight to survive, where you want your heart pumping fast, and all your energy being diverted to your muscles, to respond to physical threat. But this comes from an out-of-time function, that forces us to react when it doesn’t honour us – when we most want to be calm and in control. But our energy leaves our conscious mind, suddenly scrambling to concentrate and unable to think what to do to counter our body’s “betrayal”. Instead, the adrenalin has us wanting to run away, or dig a hole and bury ourselves, to escape from feeling so compromised!

Well firstly, teach yourself to take three of these deep breaths, telling yourself something relevant, like “I am calm, safe, and detached”. With time, you’ll easily develop the habit of breathing this way all the time, which in itself, becomes preventative. That is because we automatically breathe into our abdomens as babies. But as we experience fearful situations, and are taught to worry about fitting in and performing, our breath permanently migrates to the upper chest, in constant reaction mode.

Consider that this deep abdominal breathing is how martial artists, yogis, and masters have taught themselves to breathe – to stay calm and in control in the midst of threat or chaos. This energy centre, three finger-breadths below the navel, is known as the Dantian– the power centre – of the Sacral Chakra. These masters also build their life force by accumulating energy into their bodies, through similar breathing techniques. This is also known as Qi Kung, where I was fortunate to study and practise for years with a Sifu Qi Kung Master, so we can start to explore this in another tip to come, as Qi Kung is a very powerful and useful discipline.

And secondly, practice positive affirmations each day, aimed at reassuring yourself that all will be well, with a gradual detachment from worrying about what others think of you. This externalised view of your value will always give others power over you, to govern who and what you should be, just for their approval and inclusion.

Of course, there are exceptions to this detachment, where your environment might be legitimately dangerous, and it is not safe for you to appear to rebel. That is a topic for another serious discussion we can have. But this breathing will also help you get through those situations as well.

Practice by lying down with a small pillow, or stuffed toy, placed on your belly, and watch it rise and fall in response to each breath. You will find that, as you just concentrate on each breath, your mind becomes calmer and stops its scattered thoughts, and your muscles can all gradually relax as well. Children will also respond very well to this technique. Enjoy this easy, very effective process, as a step towards taking back control within yourself.  ♥

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Just Be    ©Deborah Morgan 2014

Introduction to my first real blog

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Here’s to inspiration and determination!
A navigational tool to help you through the labyrinth of life.

May it safely set you free…

Deborah Morgan
Psychic Readings & Mediumship
Channelled Healings
Intuitive Counselling
Clinical Hypno-Psychotherapy
Removal & clearing of negative energies

Welcome to my first real blog, which I have wanted to undertake for years, but have beautifully procrastinated with.
I have very powerfully manifested my own limitations, ha, ha, in keeping with a lack of confidence, which is crushingly disproportionate to my abilities!
And I know many of you will relate to this, all too well! – knowing you have something to offer, but having no platform of strong self-esteem to launch from.

In my journey, including a fair share of trauma and bullying, I have kept myself busy working and studying, hoping it would lead to my final “arrival” at a confident place within, where I could stand up and speak out, share a life time of humbling wisdom, and teach some powerful tools that have, in increments, set me free. The irony is that, born to a broad palette of psychic gifts and access to many levels of consciousness, my abilities became a burden of assumed responsibility to help others, with a crushing learned lack of confidence that prevented me from sharing beyond private sessions and small group classes.

Well, after years of working with many techniques, to unlock traumatic “points of origin”, and heal “activating events”, etc, I have finally set free my wounded heart –
the last remaining bastion of resistance, that has me here, excitedly free of excuses
and resistance.

I’ve walked so many miles in painful shoes, that I’ve at least cultivated understanding and empathy for the difficult journeys many of us have hobbled through, and would love to hear from anyone with specific issues or questions regarding getting on top of the game of life, and releasing the fears that hold us back. So reach out in the box below and I will share regularly with stories from my own life, with tips and strategies, to rebuild your authentic self, and increase your empowerment.
Here’s to inner freedom…  ♥